Conversation Starters for People that Find it Hard to Socialize

two female friends

I don´t know about you but I have a hard time socializing.

Either because I’m an introvert or because of my anxiety, being in a room with a bunch of strangers is probably one of the situations I dread the most. It even happens with people I already know.

But as much as I would like to live in my room forever, I know socializing is an important part of being a human, and it is even more important for my emotional and mental health…

Therefore, I literally force myself to socialize.

The thing is, I know I´m not alone. The chances are, if you are still reading this, you suffer from the same problem too.

What should I say now?
Am I being boring?
How am I supposed to get to know this person?
Now it’s my time to pick a theme!

Well, if any of these questions or worries pop up in your head whenever you are socializing, then you, my friend, could make some use of conversation starters.

conversation starters for introverts

Conversation starters for people that find it hard to socialize!

What is a conversation starter?

Yes, conversation starters are a thing.

Conversations starters consist of questions or themes that can help you engage in a fun or deep conversation with someone you are talking to. It might be a person you already know or a complete stranger.

Why use a conversation starter?

Why not? I mean, it is not like you are cheating on an exam! Conversation starters help you know a person’s personality in a deeper and honestly, a lot more fun way than “What do you do for work?” or “Where do you live?”

These questions are an easy way to know if your tastes are similar, or straight out if you are talking with a psycho. Just kidding!

Also, these questions are ideal to keep the conversation going! This way, you’ll hardly get ghosted on social media anymore.

On the other side, if you use these questions with someone you already know, you will see a different side of that friend or partner.

Who needs conversation starters?

Honestly, anyone could make use of a conversation starter, so you don’t have to feel like you are the only one here.

Frankly, millennials and Gen Z seem to have a great problem with starting and keeping conversations. Probably because all the social media we consume. But that’s a theme for later!

The point is, anyone and everyone can use a conversation starter.

I know you probably need the little help!

That’s why you are still with me. The important thing to know is that there isn’t any shame in it.

What to do when it doesn’t seem to work?

Although conversation starters are a great way to start and keep a conversation interesting, sometimes the conversation will feel awkward anyways.

You must understand that not everyone is the same. If after putting a lot of effort and interest in a conversation, the person still seems uninterested, then you simply have to move on.

You’ve done your part. You tried. There’s nothing wrong with you and there is no need to feel ashamed.

As I said, everyone is different.

Not everyone will like talking to you and you won’t like talking to everyone.

So, without any further due, here are some great conversation starters you can use to start or improve your conversation with anyone.

50 conversation starters you can use

conversation starters to make friends


What thing (or things) would you do if the world was ending today?

If you could have a superpower, what would it be, and why?

What is a smell that always reminds you of a specific memory?

What was your favorite part of this week?

Would you like to live in a world with magic?

Do you have a bucket list? What’s in it?

What are you most nostalgic about?

What are you the proudest of?

Are you living your childhood dream? What was it?

If you didn’t need any money, what thing you would love to do?

What is your favorite childhood memory?

Do you remember what was the most important thing you ever lost? What was it?

Did you know…?

That we spent really short periods of time without seeing anything? Our brains block the “blurriness” that comes from eye movements so we actually don’t see anything while the movement occurs. It is called saccadic masking.

The longest time a person has held their breath underwater is 24 minutes? The guy is named Aleix Segura

Glaciers and icecaps store most of the Earth’s freshwater?

The most used password is 123456?

The moon doesn’t shine by itself? It only reflects the light of the sun.

Halos are believed to announce a storm?

There is a percentage of people that dream in black and white?

Passing through a doorway is what makes you forget what you were going to do when you enter a new room?

If you are interested in this conversation Psychology says your feet should be pointing at me?

Sloths can swim 3 times faster than how they move on land?

Vasili Arkhipov refused to authorize the launch of a nuclear torpedo during the 60s to attack the United States Navy and therefore, he prevented World War 3 and basically saved our lives?

conversation starters for friends

Would you rather…

Erase an event from the past or control an event from the future?

Travel in time or be able to freeze time?

Be without electricity for three days or without your phone for a week?

Live alone on an island or be tied to someone for the rest of your life?

Have a lot of friends or a lot of money?

Have no sight or no hearing?

Would you rather lose your phone or your car keys?

Live in a cold or a hot place?

Be attractive or intelligent?

Have a second life after death or turn into nothingness?

Live your life again exactly how it has been so far or die tomorrow?

Work in something you don’t like but make money or something you like and be poor?

Tell me about…

A cringe-worthy moment that comes to your mind at random moments

Your favorite movie quote and I’ll try to guess the movie

The craziest thing you’ve ever done

Your favorite series without saying the name or the name of the characters

A song that makes you imagine yourself in a music video

A moment you wish to repeat

A time when you were blamed for something you didn’t do

Your favorite riddle

Something that went wrong during a trip

Your ideal retirement home

Something you wish was real but it is not

Something you wish you would have known when you were younger

What your profession would have been if you were not doing what you are doing today

Your silliest fear

Something you regret not doing

Conversation starters only take it so far…

Conversation starters (or conversation keepers) can make a conversation fun and interesting. Regardless, they cannot do all the work for you! You have to take the first step, you have to listen and most of all, you should show genuine interest.

As I said, not everyone will feel like talking to you. Just remember, it isn’t personal and you shouldn’t give up on socializing just because you didn’t click with someone.

More than anything, keep in mind that socializing and actually talking to the human beings out there is good for your health.

Finally, find whatever works for you. Either through social media or face to face conversations, connect with the people around you in your own way and at your own pace.

Find your voice and find your confidence!

On a different note, did you know the only bird that can fly backward for an undetermined period of time is the hummingbird?



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